Last year, before I turned 40, I wrote a gratitude list for my thirties. My thirties were all about big life changes – marriage, kids, jobs, homes, pets. My life as a real grown up started to unfold. But through all that, I lost and found parts of myself again. So this year, I thought I’d reflect back on my first year and share five small insights about year one in this decade.
1. Not much is different…yet. I had heard your 40s were this magical phase where you stop caring about what everyone else thinks. So I was hoping that this would instantly happen because, “I’m forty now…”
Turns out, some of my tendencies have actually been worse this year. I’m still in therapy and suppose I still have nine more years to work this out. Wish me luck!
2. Always be willing to try something new. Pickleball has become a favorite activity. Movement, competitiveness, socialization and new friends! An outlet I didn’t know I needed, but am so glad I found.
3. I made one decision that I felt so sure of and trusted myself on completely this year. I can’t begin to tell you how nice it felt to have that sort of clarity. But since then, I have wavered and wondered, “what if…”
I’ve told myself it doesn’t mean it was the wrong choice, it was the choice that seemed right at the time. But damn if it doesn’t feel a little discouraging to feel uncertain over something you felt so certain on.
4. A bold lip has become my statement piece when I need to step it up. Simple method, minimal effort. Lets me keep my style casual, comfy, cute!
5. I can do it all, but don’t want to anymore. The mental load of parenting, life, adulting is exhausting. I’ve started asking my husband for more help and offloading tasks to him. In the volunteer world, I’m working on doing my part and not being responsible for saving the world.
Cheers to the lessons that lie ahead with 41!